Sexual abstinence is a choice to limit your sexual activity. Reasons for this choice may be moral, religious, or legal. Another reason may be your health and safety.
The meaning of sexual abstinence is different for different people. The most common meaning is not having sexual intercourse. This includes vaginal and anal intercourse. If you have a partner, discuss with your partner what abstinence means to you. This is especially important if you are starting a new relationship. Talk about the expressions of love and sexuality that are OK for you and those that are not. Examples of behaviors that are OK for you may be holding hands, dancing, and kissing.
Your definition of abstinence may depend on why you are choosing to be abstinent. Your choice may be based on moral or ethical reasons. For example, you may believe that sexual intercourse is an expression of a lifetime commitment to one person. In this case you and your partner will create your list of do's and don'ts according to your beliefs. If the goal is to avoid pregnancy, then you might agree that any sexual activity except intercourse is OK. If you choose abstinence because you want to avoid any sexually transmitted infections, then it will mean that you will avoid any contact between the mouth and genital areas.
Many young people are saying no to sex before marriage. Choosing abstinence can be a statement of personal integrity and an expression of strong self-esteem.
Avoiding premature sexual relationships may help you:
You and your partner need to discuss and agree on what you mean by abstinence. You should also know how to avoid situations that promote sexual intimacy, such as drinking alcohol or being alone with a possible sexual partner. Plan how you will get out of such a situation if it happens unexpectedly.
Some promoters of abstinence feel that being prepared for safer sex--for example, having condoms on hand just in case you change your mind--means that you are not really planning to stay abstinent. Others feel that you should be prepared. This would mean that if you and your partner unexpectedly find yourselves giving up abstinence, you have condoms to protect against pregnancy and infection.
The choice of abstinence is a very important and very personal decision. Base your decision on what you believe is right for you. If you are unsure or decide against abstinence, make sure you talk with your health care provider about ways to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease.
Disclaimer: This content is reviewed periodically and is subject to change as new health information becomes available. The information provided is intended to be informative and educational and is not a replacement for professional medical evaluation, advice, diagnosis or treatment by a healthcare professional.
HIA File FMY4332F.HTM Release 9.0/2006
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